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As we gain more experience it becomes evident, that mistakes happen. You, your parents, their parents have all taken some steps that have influenced the way you are. That is social and physical evolution. I mean if the apes didn't discover using thumbs, we wouldn't have been at this stage in human evolution. Same way, somethings your grandparents did to your parents made you who you are. Some things are hardwired in your DNA literally. Its not a blame game. Its just a fact. in Hinduism we have something called Pitrudosha. It means curse of some dead relative. Astrology says that, some have it strong, some have it weak. My logic says that everyone has some effects of curse of the dead relatives, but they are able to identify it better and break the Circle better. So if it is boiling down to breaking the circle, it just means Find a problem and fix the problem. And try to not let it pass down. It's also to know that no matter what, you are going to pass something down. But so...

Yes I know God is a sensitive Topic and a very personal topic for everyone. And rightly so!! Everyone has the right to have their own image of God. Because it lies within the scope of freedom of thought and belief, which is & should be a fundamental right. So with this said, my thoughts about God are that, God is a term used to define/describe anything and everything that we do not have the capacity to understand. Humans have always been explorers and tried to expand their knowledge base. But it still has its boundaries. Anything that lies beyond those boundaries, is for me "God". My Future, the society, the creation of mankind, where we go after death, also my own Body, unknown ways to me how my body functions! That can all be termed as God. Basically the unknown is God. The problem is that God is a very mystical term and we put god above all. But no, things that must be "worshipped" i.e. put at highest order, given top priority, don't depend on if its know...

For the longest time I have disliked planning. I have been a dopamine junkie my whole 30 years of my life. I havent done drugs or anything, but my dopamine is always from distraction from my work at hand. Living in the moment is good till it is the reason for chaos in your life. I sit at work as I write this blog as well. I must confess, I have scored horrible on the OCEAN personality test.  https://www.understandmyself.com/ Really high in neuroticism which is a negative trait, and really low on openness and conscientiousness.  The description given there was word by word true. Its my struggle in life to increase my conscientiousness. Dr. Peterson whom I follow and trust to be a honest man a lot, has in a Video said, one way to increase Conscientiousness is to plan. Calendar is not a tyrant. Use calendar as a friend. And using this tool properly takes upto 24 months to really ingrain in you the tool.  This is my goal. by October 2025, I want to make a friendship with a ca...

      So I am in search for a new project for myself. This time with a target of minimum 1 year and wish of 3 year target. This blog is my project/ dairy/ mouthpiece to reach out to the world my few ideas about a normal person's normal life. I would like to just post here some ideas, feelings and struggles of day to day life and how I try to cope up with it.      Since its Not a Self Help blog, this is just an mirror of a any Tom Dick and Harry's life in this world. My way of telling my life story and through jumble& bunch of random ideas.      I would definitely use clips from talks that attracted me, ideas that inspired me, events that moved me, people that changed me. Just intending to grow myself through this way. So cheers!! and welcome to the secret not so secret insight of EugeneGoostman on his Not a Self Help Blog